How to Influence People
I was sixteen years old and we were on a Geography tour with my entire class. We were far from home and as usual I felt like the odd one out.
But something happened that night that changed the way I saw things. We were on a night hike and all of us were tired. Ambling along the hiking trail, I heard someone just ahead of me take a fall. Going to see who it was, I discovered that it was a girl in my class. She hung out in a different crowd and we did not know each other very well.
It turned out that she had sprained her ankle. I helped her back to camp where I waited with her until one of the teachers could help her out.
By that time all the other kids had returned and were preparing for dinner or sitting around the campfire. No one really wanted to lose out on all the fun by waiting with someone who was hurt.
One by one I saw this girl's close friends leave her to do their own thing. I stuck around though and we began to talk. She thanked me many times for just waiting with her and by the end of the evening we were best of friends.
I did not think that I had done much that night, but she was so thankful and opened up to me, just because I took the time to get involved.
It was then that I started to realize the powerful principle of just 'being there' and to also take the courage to get involved in someone's problems. Now many years later I am in full time ministry and I find myself applying this principle daily. I want to take this powerful lesson and impart it to you.
Just Think About It for a Moment!
We live in a world where everyone is expected to take care of themselves. If you see someone broken down on the side of the road, you drive on thinking to yourself, "I am sure that they have a plan and can get out of that themselves."
But do you even realize how much this attitude has crept into your ministry? Open your eyes and look around you. It is not hard to find problems.
As a regular believer you might be able to let them go, but as a leader you can never let them go.
If someone has submitted themselves to your leadership, then they count on you to care for them. They count on you to get involved, even when they are ashamed or are struggling.
Now you need to understand this clearly. I am not telling you to get involved in people's lives and to tell them what to do, I am telling you to get involved in people’s lives and love them, until they open their hearts to receive your counsel and ministry.
Jesus is our ultimate example of this. He got involved with the Samaritan woman at the well. He got involved with little Zacchaeus. He got involved with the money changers in the temple (even though many people would have preferred if he did not!)
He got involved with Peters sick mother in law. Later on Apostle Peter walked along the road and saw a crippled man begging. He could have walked on by, but instead...He got involved!
Getting the Idea?
So start by taking a look at those in your church or those that are around you. What are the things they are struggling with right now?
Let's Get Practical
If you are an Elder or Church leader:
1. Make a list of everyone in your church.
2. Next to each name make a short note of their spiritual condition right now.
3. Next to each name write down anything they are struggling with right now.
4. Next to each name write what each person needs to overcome their struggle or problem.
Some of your members might be struggling with their faith. Others might be living in sin. Open your eyes and for the first time, do not be afraid to say the things that need to be said and to get involved where you ignored problems before.
Some Ideas on How to Minister to Those Needs.
One of the main things that they might need is counsel. DO NOT give counsel UNTIL you have read my instructions below on what to do if your member needs counsel.
You can share from the Word in your next meeting.
You can do something to help or arrange help, if it is something practical that needs to be done.
If you are not in leadership or active ministry:
1. Write a list of the names of the people in your church (or if you are fellowshipping with your family, write their names.)
2. Next to each name write down anything they are struggling with right now.
3. Next to each name write what you can share or do for each person that will help them in their situation.
A couple might be due to have a baby, why not be the first to send flowers and give a word of blessing? Someone might be ill, why not visit and offer to pray? There might be singles who need company...let the Holy Spirit reveal the needs to you.
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